Agreed. But does that mean you withdraw control completely and just sit back and let it happen? Or, does the 'ordeal of waking up in the morning-enduring an entire day of work you don't enjoy-returning home too exhausted to care about what you do and don't have control over' lead you to withdraw naturally, without thought or intention? Or sometimes, your life is governed by factors and entities that you can curse and resist, but never escape. A mixture of the last two are only too familiar.
Whatever the excuse, I don't accept the conclusion. What makes your life differ from another's? What makes one upbringing differ from another?
If you stop making decisions for the way your life is to be led, then you're being unfair to yourself and eventually those around you. For your personality is blocked from translating into a variety of rules and traditions that make you happy.
Make it a point to sit together every night for dinner. The one meal the entire family eats together. If not every day, then twice a week. Don't snap and fight or argue and critise. Just talk and comment or sit and listen.
What's the opposite of that? Eating meals like they're a huge burden. "What should be cooked?", "What do you, and you, and you want?" (x 7 x 30 x 365) "Where will you, and you, and you eat" (all different rooms). Sometimes you can't help this. It's a habit that's hard to break and exhausting to try again.
I think a family should eat together. I think a family should talk to each other. And if you live in a 21st century house, flooded with technology and distractions, and work in a mind-sucking job, then both can happen together. Afterall, how do you just go on with life without knowing your own family, only because you didn't try hard enough?
